Someone I'm friends with on Facebook recently posted a link to this article and it was too good not to share. I tend to ignore my FB feed, but for some reason this stood out as something I just had to read. It really spoke to me and I kept nodding and saying YES! out loud when I was reading some of these items. Your happiness is up to you and you alone -- and yes, you can change it! I was going to pick a few of my favorites to share but the entire list just is that good. These 21 things are listed here with my thoughts on each one. Click the link above to read the original article.
1. Appreciate Life
This is so easy to forget. We're so lucky to be alive and well. So many people don't get that opportunity to wake up and seize the day. As my dad often says, "at least I'm not pushing daises!" Don't take your life (or anyone) for granted!
2. Choose Friends Wisely
Do you have positive, supportive, amazing friends in your life? Well, awesome! If not? It's time to take a good look around and re-evaluate who you're putting time and energy into. Friends should make you feel good about yourself and should be there for you when you need them. Don't ever forget that.
3. Be Considerate
Love one another. I say this phrase a lot these days. Everyone is different. They think different, act different, look different and do things differently. Love them anyways and accept this. Try to give off positive vibes to everyone you encounter, you never know what they might be going through.
4. Learn Continuously
Always keep pushing to learn and do more. Never become comfortable with where you are at. If I never tried new things or pushed myself, I wouldn't be where I am today. Is it scary? Absolutely! But the risk is far worth the reward.
5. Creative Problem Solving
Experiencing some kind of lull or set back in your life? Instead of complaining and not do anything about it, see it as an awesome challenge to overcome. It's not going to fix itself, only you have the power to change things in your life. No one can change that but you.
6. Do What They Love
Most people absolutely hate what they do. Why? They feel pressure or just really need the paycheck. Hate it that bad that you can't change your attitude about it? It's not worth it. Life is far too short to be that miserable all the time. Trust me, the people around you will thank me for this tip of advice.
7. Enjoy Life
See the beauty in the little things. Life is an amazing gift that often gets cut way too short. Enjoy your days while you can becuase you never know what tomorrow brings. Stop and smell the roses once in a while :)
Laughing cures everything. Honestly. If I'm having a bad day all I need to do is listen to Jay's fabulous impressions to cheer me up. You might be stubborn and try not to laugh, but honestly it feels so good to just give in and laugh. The full belly kind that make you ache when you're done. Try to take life less seriously and I promise you, you'll be a lot happier.
Holding a grudge will only hurt yourself. That person you're mad at? They probably don't know or don't care very much. Let. It. Go. So not worth your time. Focus your energy on other things like the great people in your life and your goals and passions. You'll get a lot farther and you'll eventually forget about that jerk.
Count your blessings. You're very lucky. Yes, you. You have things that people only dream about. Be thankful for these things, even the little things in you life. They could be gone in an instant. Make sure to take the time to tell the loved ones in your life how much they mean to you -- that never gets old.
11. Invest in Relationships
What you put into your relationships is what you will get out of them. Time is a precious thing that we all wished we had more of. Some of my biggest regrets have been not making the time for someone or something. Be there for your friends and family, you'd be lost without them.
12. Keep Their Word
Always be honest. Honesty is not always the easiest thing, but in the long run will keep you out of a lot of trouble. You may not realize it, but everyone can spot a phony a mile away. Be honest with yourself and others. You'll sleep much better at night.
Take some time out of the day to be alone with your thoughts. Some people like to read, do yoga, stretch, go on a walk, take a bath or long shower, etc. I find that calming myself down and focusing on grounding myself is one of the best things I can do for myself and the people that I encounter every day. If I let the stress build up and couldn't find some sort of outlet I'd feel really bad for my husband, friends and family. Who wants to be around that?
14. Mind Their Own Business
Ah, yes. I've noticed the importance of this one more and more as I get older. When I was in high school it was easy to get swept up in the drama. Now? I just want to live my life the way I want it and don't care if people don't like it. Concentrate on YOU and YOUR life. Don’t worry about what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up in the gossip. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.
Life gets hard. No doubt. Instead of folding up into a ball and burring your head in the sand, try to find the positive in every situation. It's hard, but I promise it's there. Usually it's a life lesson (a hard one) but I bet you'll never make that mistake again. Every situation can be turned into a learning experience. Like that time I let a "friend" borrow my car and they drove it into an industrial sized mailbox. The positive in that situation? Thank god no one got hurt (well just my wallet).
16. Love Unconditionally
Accept everyone. Your friends and family may not always do things that you agree with, but love them anyways. We're all different and we all deserved to be loved and supported. It's just that simple.
Life gets hard sometimes (okay maybe a lot ... and usually a lot of hard things happen around the same time) but the only thing that keeps you down is you. If you quit or never try? You lose. Don't give up on the things that matter most to you. You can't ever succeed if you don't try.
18. Be Proactive
You can't change everything -- and you have to accept that. Don't waste your time or energy on things outside of your control. Worrying about stuff will only make you crazy and take years off of your life. Embrace it, it's okay to let go.
19. Self Care
You can't take care of others if you're not taking care of yourself. You need to make your health a priority in your life in order to be the best person you can. I always feel 100% better when I'm eating right, working out, getting enough sleep and water. It's crazy how quickly my mood can change when one of those things is off.
20. Self Confidence
No one can like you if you don't even like yourself. Practice a little self love and I promise your attitude about other things will change too. I used to care a lot about what other people thought until I realized that changing myself for others only led to me being more miserable instead of happy. Do things for yourself and yourself alone.
21. Take Responsibility
You are responsible for your moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. Mess up? Apologize and move on. Take responsibility for your life and your actions.
Be happy :)